A dear friend of mine, who is also a therapist, once told me that the source of our pain as humans essentially comes from our expectations of one another. I initially disagreed. It is healthy, I though to myself, and even necessary as humans, to have expectations. But the more we discussed his belief back and forth, the more I understood what he meant. Expectations can be like quick sand. We get stuck in a belief or a storyline about why we should get the outcome we hope or